Are you finding yourself avoiding kisses, hugs, or even the thought of intimacy with your partner? Do you feel like your personality has shifted since menopause, making you more independent but less connected?

You’re not alone, and you’re not imagining things. But here’s the truth—it doesn’t have to be this way.

Welcome back to The Hormone Prosperity Podcast with me, Dr. Kyrin, your trusted hormone prosperity coach. In this empowering episode, we’re answering a candid and relatable question from Tiffany about losing that spark of intimacy and connection in midlife. Together, we’ll unpack myths, reveal truths, and equip you with the guidance you need to not just survive this stage of life—but thrive.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why libido is essential, not optional: Discover why your sex drive is one of the most powerful indicators of your overall health and vitality.

• The myths we’ve been sold: Find out why the belief that losing your sex drive is “normal” after 40 is a damaging lie—and how societal norms perpetuate this misconception.

• The secrets of cultivating vitality: Learn about Master Mantak Chia’s teachings on preserving and transforming sexual energy (Jing) into Qi—a powerful force to rejuvenate your body, mind, and spirit.

• Unpacking "common vs. normal": Just because many women experience midlife symptoms like low libido, hair loss, weight gain, and exhaustion doesn’t mean it’s something you have to accept.

• Empowering questions, powerful results: Shift from asking “What’s wrong with me?” to “What would hormonal prosperity do?” (#WWHPD).

• Practical steps to finding your spark: Identify what’s holding you back, learn how to address unresolved health issues, and explore the energetic and functional practices to reclaim your vitality.

• The ripple effect of intimacy: How rediscovering passion with your partner can increase love and positive energy in your family, community, and even the world.

Episode Highlights:

This episode is packed with game-changing insights and practical solutions tailored to empower midlife women. You'll feel understood, inspired, and equipped with supportive tools to reclaim the passion and intimacy that’s your birthright.

From Master Mantak Chia’s wisdom on multiple orgasms (yes, really!) to understanding how healing your Jing benefits your entire life, you’ll leave this episode ready to take action.

Your Call to Action

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No one deserves to live in hormonal poverty. 🛑 Drop the disempowering question, “What’s wrong with me?” and start asking, “What would hormonal prosperity do?” (#WWPD)

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Words to Keep Close to Heart:

“Just because something is common, doesn’t mean it’s normal. You don’t have to settle. Bliss, vitality, and intimacy are your birthright—go reclaim them!”

Podcast Episode Transcript:

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (00:00):

Are you hating, kissing and other sexual things with your partner right about now? If so, this is definitely part of hormonal poverty and we need to have a serious talk. The health consequences are devastating of having no libido and what this means for your health and your vitality and your life. Up next,

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (00:24):

Greetings friend. Welcome to the Hormone Prosperity Podcast with me, the hormone prosperity coach, Dr. Kyrin. Here's where intelligent women over 40 go to get credible guidance and inspiration on getting out of hormonal poverty and into hormonal prosperity and the joy and vitality that brings. Go from asking disempowering questions like, what's wrong with me, to asking empowering questions like, what would hormonal prosperity do? Hashtag ww HPD. Join me as we dive into today's episode and get started on your journey off the couch, into your gene and back into life, because bliss is your birthright and a healthy body filled with hormonal prosperity is the vehicle that gets you there. Welcome. Let's get started.

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (01:16):

Hey everybody. Welcome back to another episode of the Hormone Prosperity Coach. We're gonna answer Tiffany's question today about, she says, fully in menopause now, hate kissing. Anyone else moods. Just curious. Have heard others complain about zero interest in sex? Definitely have that issue. Poor husband kissing now just completely grosses me out and hubby kisses a lot. His dental health is excellent, takes great care of his teeth slash gums. It's just gross. It's so surprising how much my personality has changed since menopause arrived. I'm not snugly where I used to hold hands. Sit next to hug, touch all the time now. No thanks. Please give me space. I've talked to hubby about how I've changed since and he understands, but I do miss how I was in that way. I do like now how I feel way more independent and give less about what others think.

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (02:10):

I was a people pleaser for sure before. Anyway, just wondering if anyone else is grossed out by certain things. Now, I love this question, Tiffany <laugh>. I absolutely love this question. So this was me back in my forties when I was going through the change. And here I am ob, GYN and midlife and all my patients are at midlife with the same problems. And I didn't, I felt the same way. I didn't wanna kiss, I didn't wanna, I didn't want anything to do with sex. I didn't wanna ever have sex again. In fact, I told my husband, maybe you can relate. Go get a girlfriend. I'm not doing that <laugh>, it's not funny really. But I did say that. And every woman who would come see me in their forties and fifties and beyond would say the same thing. I don't care if I ever have sex again.

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (02:58):

And maybe you're there. So let's talk about this. I love this question. So why is this so vital in the West? We very much take it for granted as a fact of life that we are going to lose our sex drive as we age. Whether you believe it or not, there is a part of you, whether you admit it or not, that probably believes this. And we foster this belief among each other as women by believing that there are no answers. There was menopause the musical a a few years ago where they had musical numbers. It did traveled all around the world, I think musical numbers about menopause. And I didn't see it, but a friend of mine who's a colleague also went and saw it and she said, Kyrin, all these women were in this theater with their friends. They give you a fan when you walk in the door before you go to your seat.

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (03:54):

And they're fanning themselves and they have songs about how we're just fat and sexless and we wind up with coffee and wind down with wine. And we, we just, that's all we have to look forward to in life. And we just make the best of it. And chocolate makes us happy. And we fan ourselves. And she said, they're all laughing. And I, I'm crying tears. Were rolling down my face. And I would've been crying too if I had been there because it's insanity. What we women have been told to accept as the truth about our health that is nothing but pure lies. We can and should have an excellent, healthy sex drive and sex life throughout our lifespan. In fact, our sex drive is in my opinion, one of the best, if not the best barometers of our overall health. Don't tell me your temperature, your blood pressure, your weight to your pulses, your respiratory rate, all these things.

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (04:52):

That's nice. Tell me what your sex drive is doing and I'll tell you how healthy you are. And it really should be va vavo at every age. And in fact, so I'm here at Dow Garden at a DAOs retreat learning from Master Montauk Chia, and I've now become a certified associate instructor to start teaching the practices. Why is this important? He is one of the teachers of these philosophies and practices that help women to preserve and cultivate their life force energy that heals their body, their chi, but their jing also, which is their sexual force energy. And how to turn that into q that helps and nourishes your body. You have a fountain ever giving fountain of this coming to you. So if you're not experiencing it as a drive to sexuality, something is wrong. And it means that you're losing Qi life force.

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (05:54):

And when all your qi life force is gone, guess what time's up. And that is the ending date on your tombstone. The day that you die when you have no more chi life force. So this is crucial. It is vital. And and master chia says menopausal women, super woman super superwoman. We shouldn't only be having one orgasm, we should be having multiple orgasm. That's one of the things that he teaches, is the techniques for how do women do that with or without a partner. So within the next year, I'll be rolling out programs to teach you how to do these things. Yay. along with other energy practices we should be having multiple orgasms and how these orgasms take this jing sexual energy and you can create she vital life force energy to heal your brain and your body and your organs and store it to use for energy.

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (06:50):

How does that sound to go do all the things you wanna do. Like go to musicals and go to plays and hang out with your friends and travel. So menopausal woman superwoman and you should be hot superwoman, really, Tiffany. So this is something that we women in the west really take for granted that we're going to lose our sex drive and then we think it's no big deal 'cause all our friends are experiencing that. So we think it's quote unquote normal. So what I want to key you in, in this video too, there's always the answer to the question and then there's some adjunct that is important for you to understand about why that question is important and how you are understanding and going about answering that question that will help inform you to make, ask better questions about your health so you can get better results.

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (07:44):

And here it, it has to do with what we come to believe is normal. We believe that the 60 plus symptoms of midlife metabolic mayhem are quote unquote normal because we look around and all our friends are having the same things. We go to book club, we go to church, we go to luncheons, we go to family reunions. Every woman over 40 is talking about the 60 plus symptoms of midlife metabolic. Ma'am, oh, my hair's falling out. Oh, I have no sex drop. Oh, I can't lose this weight. Oh, I I have this rash that won't go away. Oh, my eyelashes won't grow. Oh, my gut is crazy. I don't know what's happening. You name the symptoms. Oh, I got this autoimmune condition. My doctor doesn't know what it is. It's some non-specific autoimmune marker. They're gonna recheck it in six months, right? It's all these health things that we don't have answers to that make our life difficult to live.

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (08:38):

We think it's normal. It is not normal. It is not normal to have any of this. It's common, but it is not normal. Common does not equal normal. Stop believing that they are different. Just because something's common doesn't mean that it's normal and you shouldn't have to, to put up with it. There is always a reason I say there is always, always, always a reason. If you have symptoms that with your health that remain unresolved, there is always a reason. And if the healthcare providers that you're going to don't have explanations for you and can't help you reverse it, you're going to the raw, you're going to the hardware store for milk. So stop going to the hardware store for milk. They don't sell milk, they never will. And drive your car on over to your computer like where I do my work right online or find another provider who can help you with these energetic practices and the functional practices.

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (09:37):

It is absolutely vital. So Tiffany, you and your husband deserve, and this is for Tiffany and everybody else with this question and this difficulty. Some of you are living as a roommate with your spouse of decades whom you have shared a home with, built a life with foster, had children, with birth children, with raised them. You have all these rich, beautiful life experiences together. Did you really go through all of that to get to this stage of life where you don't even wanna kiss your partner and hold hands with them and cuddle with them and make sweet, passionate, hot stank, sexy love with them and enjoy their company and have that close physical emotional intimacy that can occur for you? Did you really go through all of that to just be like me? Meh, it's normal. I don't want it. No, you didn't. You're just giving up because you don't think you can have anything different.

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (10:39):

And that's a whole other meta called lured helplessness, which is very common among women in Western countries. We are taught at a very young age that we have to accept what is given to us and only ask the questions and get the answer, receive the answers to the questions that we're told we can ask. And what I'm telling you is it's time to break out of that crap and start asking the empowering questions that are gonna get you what you really want, not what you think you can have to settle for. When you start demanding what is yours for your health, you start saying, I will not put up with a sexless marriage.

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (11:22):

You'll start, they say when the student is ready, the teacher appears. So when you are really ready to receive that, the teacher will appear me or someone like me who can help you with the energetic pieces, the g the jing, all of it, and the functional pieces. And then you'll watch the miracles that happen and what is restored for you, for your body, your hormonal prosperity, your life, your marriage, your family. This doesn't only affect you by the way, that's another thing I wanna point out. You think that it's just you and your husband, it affects him. I find the men more than they say they don't like to say. But it also affects your whole family and your friends and your community because love is probably the most powerful force there is. Sexual love being one of those forms. And the sexual love fosters the love between a couple and that ripples out into everybody else in your environment.

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (12:29):

And energetically it ripples out actually to the whole world. So being in love with your husband and wanting to be close and physically close and sexual with him actually is your duty not only to yourself, but to the globe to increase the level of love. The the energy will go out as free radicals to the environment to counteract all of the negative hateful energy that we're encountering in our globe right now. Do your part, Tiffany <laugh>, do your part. You gotta do your part. So get this fixed so you and your husband can get right and then you're doing everybody a service. So I love this question, Tiffany, thank you so much for that. So much more to learn. If you're not sure, if you're in hormonal poverty, please take the quiz. It will really help you. I created it free to help you.

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (13:22):

You can find the link in the show notes. It takes less than 60 seconds. I'll give you free my blueprint from hormonal poverty to hormonal prosperity. And consider joining me for the Hormonal BLIS challenge where I really dive in with you one-on-one face-to-face. We do it as a group all your questions and really help you understand what are all the pieces, what are the anatomic, biochemical, physiological, functional, energetic pieces that I need to address to get the hormone prosperity that I want. So I look forward to seeing you there. Thanks so much for joining me. Welcome your questions. I really love answering them. Until next time, peace, love, and hormones. Y'all,

Dr. Kyrin Dunston (14:14):

Thank you so much for joining me on your journey from hormonal poverty into the promised land of hormonal prosperity. Loved today's episode. Share it with someone you care about, love the show. Consider writing a review and help other women find it too. Remember, we're all in this together right now. There are well over 100 million women suffering in hormonal poverty without answers. Please be of service by sharing, rating and reviewing the show. Help us reach at least 1 million of these women this coming year from one previously suffering woman to another. I thank you. See you next week.